Professional dancer Kafayat Shafau, known as Kaffy, shared her childhood trauma during an episode of The Honest Bunch podcast, revealing that her mother accused her of having an affair with her boyfriend.
She recounted a painful experience that occurred when she was just 13 years old.
Kaffy revealed that her mother wrongly accused her of being involved with one of her mother’s partners.
She explained that during her mother’s divorce, she dated various men, whom Kaffy and her siblings would refer to as “daddies” due to their longing for a father figure.
She recounted “I was 13 when my mother started suspecting me with her own men. Because of the divorce she had kinds of people. She will have different men she is dating and we will see those men as daddies because we were also missing that father [figure].
“The closer you are to the men, the more she is insecure. And there was a day that I was stripped naked in front of that man in the living room and punished for just trying to help ‘daddy’ clean a blood from his face because he was shaving and cut himself. My mother walked into the room when I was saying, ‘Daddy, see.’ And she misinterpreted what was happening and I was flogged naked in front of everyone.
“That had its own traumatising effect on the mind on its own. But then you are thinking, ‘But that’s my mother, would I do that to my mother? Why would my mother even think of that of me, the daughter?’ Are you seeing that transfer of insecurity from mother to child? It’s done subliminally but it’s going to have its own effect,” she stated.
